How to Support a Friend With Cancer

How to Support a Friend With Cancer
October 6, 2014 treatmintbox
group of friends supporting someone with cancer

[vc_row type=”in_container” scene_position=”center” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” overlay_strength=”0.3″][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_position=”all” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ width=”1/1″][image_with_animation image_url=”916″ alignment=”center” animation=”Fade In”][divider line_type=”No Line” custom_height=”50″][vc_column_text]There is no one, collective cancer experience. We each experience it and find ways to deal with the physical and emotional pain in different ways. During my battle I found it therapeutic to talk about my experience. I wanted to share my journey and was open about the medical details of my treatment. If you wanted all the TMI details of vaginal radiation or to hear about the side effects of surgical menopause… I was here to tell you. In fact, I might just put it on my Facebook status.

I fought alongside a friend who also had cancer. Not many people even knew she was sick. She didn’t lose her hair and looked perfectly healthy. She preferred to fight alone. She never discussed her pathology, recounted nightmare stories of inserting picc lines, or wanted to commiserate about drinking the gulpie size contrast before a scan. I would be lying if I told you that it didn’t hurt me. I wondered why couldn’t she trust me enough to open up?
It took me a long time to accept her privacy. Not everyone wants to share this journey. For some it’s a solo trek and that’s okay. It’s something they can control in a time when cancer controls pretty much everything else.

If you are learning how to support a friend with cancer, “How are things going?” could be a better question than, “How are you feeling?”. It leaves the decision of how to respond in their hands. When you have cancer you can feel like there isn’t much to life besides going from one doctor’s appointment to the next. Many people prefer to talk to friends and family about “normal” things. Respecting your friends preference is one of the most important things you can do for them.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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