Supporting Someone with Cancer: Avoid Comparisons

Supporting Someone with Cancer: Avoid Comparisons
November 2, 2014 treatmintbox

[vc_row type=”in_container” scene_position=”center” text_color=”dark” text_align=”left” overlay_strength=”0.3″][vc_column column_padding=”no-extra-padding” column_padding_position=”all” background_color_opacity=”1″ background_hover_color_opacity=”1″ width=”1/1″][image_with_animation image_url=”911″ alignment=”center” animation=”Fade In”][divider line_type=”No Line” custom_height=”50″][vc_column_text]Learning how to support someone with cancer can be hard. It’s natural to want to connect with a friend fighting and one of the ways we commonly do that is to tell them about someone else we know with cancer. It comes with the best intentions. You want to show you care, you “get it.” So we tell a story about how our previous neighbor battled a rare blood cancer or how our uncle had prostate cancer. The fact of the matter is these stories don’t help, especially when they have lost their fight. For someone fighting these comparisons seem like comparing apples to oranges and hearing stories of people losing their battle is deflating. Every cancer is different and every patients deals with cancer in their own unique way. Comparisons just aren’t that helpful.  When these stories are useful is when you know someone with the same type of cancer or when you want to connect the patient to a survivor you know that could provide support. Always be sure to ask the survivor first! These survivors need to be in a place to provide support. Supporting someone with fighting can be hard, even for someone who has lived through it before. For many survivors talking to someone who was just diagnosed can open up old wounds.[/vc_column_text][/vc_column][/vc_row]

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